Jada Pinkett “Willow’s beauty is not measured by the length of her hair”.

After receiving tons of hate and criticism  of her daughter, Willow Jada finally spoke out in defense of Willow experimenting with her look and explained that she is letting her baby girl claim her domain. On her facebook page she wrote:

A letter to a friend…

This subject is old but I have never answered it in its entirety. And even with this post it will remain incomplete.

The question why I would LET Willow cut her hair. First the LET must be challenged. This is a world where women,girls are constantly reminded that they don’t belong to themselves; that their bodies are not their own, nor their power or self determination. I made a promise to endow my little girl with the power to always know that her body, spirit and her mind are HER domain. Willow cut her hair because her beauty, her value, her worth is not measured by the length of her hair. It’s also a statement that claims that even little girls have the RIGHT to own themselves and should not be a slave to even their mother’s deepest insecurities, hopes and desires. Even little girls should not be a slave to the preconceived ideas of what a culture believes a little girl should be.

More to come. Another day.


I love Jada for handling her and Willow’s haters like this when I’m sure she would much rather prefer to go upside their heads. I, personally admire little Willow for being bold enough to be herself in spite of the backlash and scrutiny that she so heavily receives. I recently have been feeling really insecure when it comes to my hair. It might just be ‘that time of the month’, or the fact that I’m going through a bit of an awkward phase in terms of my length right now, but I am realizing just how much of security blanket my hair really is. I wish I could just cut it and not care what anyone would think or if I would still be attractive to folks but at this point I honestly can’t. I don’t have the heart just yet to do me. I’m too concerned with how folks will react and too filled with insecurity, that I know at this point… it’s never going to happen. SMH. It’s such a two fold you know? This whole ‘natural hair uprising” has been revolutionizing in a way but it has also made some of us obsessed with getting ‘the perfect curl’, ‘the perfect cut’ and ‘the perfect volume’. Anyone else feeling this way? I don’t know, maybe I’m emotional and trippin. Maybe I should just cut it off and document that transition and journey or maybe I should just sit down somewhere and stop being so dramatic?

More to come but in the meantime just know that my curls looks drunk, uneven and flat. It’s pissing me off. And that I think Willow Smith is the ish. That is all.

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5 thoughts on “Jada Pinkett “Willow’s beauty is not measured by the length of her hair”.

  1. i love her statement and it’s not just you feeling the same way. i’ve been having serious doubts about my hair and why it never turns out like everybody elses with natural hair. i’m trasitioning so i have to work with two textures and i’m too scared to cut it.

  2. I completely agree, Willow Smith does the dam thing and I think that some of us should just take notes instead of imposing more rigid boundaries of what little girl’s hair should look like, boundaries, mind you, that this movement has been fighting to get away from in the first place. We don’t want to be told what a black woman’s hair should look like, what is “appropriate” for the work place, or what looks “unkempt” or not, but we continue to impose rules and regulations on our precious girls (and curls). Sad day. Especially when you KNOW we were all rocking out to “Whip My Hair” just a couple years ago! That was basically our theme song…

  3. The world needs more fearless women and girls like Jada and Willow. As I posted on another blog, if Willow’s style choices are the biggest problem anyone has with her, she’s WAY ahead of the game.

    Antoinette, for what it’s worth, every woman’s been where you are at some point in her life. It does take a certain amount of courage to just be you…however in my case, when I first BC’d back in the day, it was far less about courage and more about being fed the f*** up, lol. It wasn’t until years later that I began to understand how my BC really rocked certain folks’ worlds.

    See, I am a dark-skinned, nappy-headed (mostly 4b) woman who rarely wears makeup…and despite the brutal teasing I got from black girls growing up I guess my parents’ influence negated much of it because I NEVER EVER thought that my skin color was a “handicap” that I needed to compensate for with long hair, straight hair, extra makeup, etc. When I BC’d — I went down to half an inch of hair — I truly wasn’t thinking about what other people would think. In fact, like I said, I didn’t realize the impact my decision had until AFTER the fact, when black women (yep…) told me how “brave” I was to do it. It wasn’t about being brave! It was about being sick and tired of having mostly-jacked-up-but-still-socially-acceptable relaxed hair for 18 years! And these same black women who were shocked about my BC were even more shocked when I grew it to just below ear-length straightened in just under a year with next to no effort whatsoever.

    My point: It’s YOUR hair, YOUR life, YOUR decision. Whatever you decide to do, the world won’t end because of it. Yeah, some folks might be upset if you cut it…but the world won’t end because of them either. Also, hair grows back. Everything will be all right regardless.

    • I concur. I went “napptural” long before the current natural hair movement and when your skin had to be really really thick. It’s a definite process. I’ve rocked a “Grace Jones” 4 different times in my life – starting when I was in HS – and while I never hesitated to cut my hair off, each time it’s gotten easier. I do become concerned sometimes whilst perusing the online hair-o-sphere that a lot of naturals are substituting one set of hair “rules” (for want of a better word) for another, and that the mindset is still that natural Highly-textured hair still needs to have X, Y, Z done to it in order to be “presentable”. I love that Jada is just letting Willow do her own thing. Goodness knows Willow will have a zillion do-s and don’t-s thrown at her regarding her appearance in her lifetime. I can only hope that as our natural movement grows, our concerns about what is and what isn’t “acceptable” will lessen.

  4. I agree with the comments above. If all people have to talk about This little girl is her hair, then they really have nothing to do with their lives. Considering the way younger girls carry themselves these days, it’s refreshing to see a girl that’s so well put together, and isn’t wild and all over the place.

    I’ve been feeling the same way with my hair recently. It never looks the way I want it to. I’ve been thinking of cutting it shorter, just because I don’t have thick hair and I feel like it doesn’t look full…Hence making my curls ‘less than stellar’.

    I also think that we’re the hardest on ourselves. So technically, the curls may be looking good, but it’s just the idea in our heads that’s causing us to think that it’s not.

    At the end of the day, do what makes you happy 🙂

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