There was a time when I would have never posted this picture anywhere. There was a time I would have never been caught video chatting without a complete beat face. Even as recently as last year, had FaceTime rang with me still sweaty from the gym, I would have declined the call or strategically placed the camera so that I had a chance to ‘put myself together’ before anyone could see me. But then I have to ask myself would I had even gone to the gym without at least foundation on? I think not.
Now, I know that we all say there is nothing wrong with trying to look ‘our best’. But lately, I have struggled with what that means and all the weight and pressure that comes with that. It’s a mind f*ck really. So tell me, am I not at my best like this? I had a good day, prayed, went to yoga, walked, drank a mean green smoothie for dinner, cleaned my room and approached the day with gratitude. But even after all that, I still need to look outside of myself in order to be my best? It’s really quite confusing and the implications that come along with statements like ‘you’re best’ can be daunting.
I worry sometimes that this blog adds to that confusion because we are in a way a beauty blog. But my hope is that we aren’t your average beauty blog. My hope is that we keep it real enough to keep your minds at ease. My hope is that no claims of perfection are made here. My hope is that Shanti and I document our own personal journeys that folks can relate to it but not strive towards it. My hope is that we inspire.
In summary, I’m at a point in my life that when it comes to beauty, I no longer feel the need to strive towards perfection and I think it is because I have defined for myself what “at my best” is. I think it’s important that we all do that. It’s vital that we have and live by our definitions and refine them when need be. Otherwise, we are at risk of living up to standards made with a broad brush.
So, I am at my best when…
-I eat healthy
-I’m in love
-I take care of my skin
-I use my favorite sweet smelling shea butter after I shave
-I use lip liner with my lipstick
-I wear my new black leather jacket with a bright red lip, aviator sun glasses and slick my hair back in a tight bun
-I have that black long line bra on
-I get my eyebrows done and handle any random weird hairs on my face/chin/mustache (smh)
-I drink tons of water
-I get to see him
-I think positive
-I trust the journey
-I’m social and not behind this computer
-I watch/listen/love Beyonce
-I’m around kids
-I get a pedicure
-I leave my hair alone until it is completely dry.
When are you at your best ladies?