God, make me brave for life:
Oh, braver than this
Let me straighten after pain, as a tree straightens after the rain
Shining and lovely again
God, make me brave for life;
much braver than this.
As the blown grass lifts,
let me rise from sorrow with quiet eyes,
knowing thy way is wise.
God make me brave,
life brings such blinding things.
Help me to keep my sight;
Help me to see aright
That out of darkens comes light.
Rest In Peace Mike Brown
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Early Sunday morning, we whipped ourselves into shape and got ready. Antoinette skillfully beat her face to perfection and warmed up her voice while I slammed some blush up the side of my cheeks and felt nervous about the premiere of my accidental Malcolm X red hair color.
We arrived at the port early, boarded the boat and were met by a crew of busy, beautiful women with curls and kinks prepped and poppin’ for the event setting tables. Once the commotion was all over, the room was set really beautifully, guests started to flood in and Antoinette began to sing.
We had some really awesome company at the table where we were sat. We sat next to Whitney of Naptural85, Mahisha Dellinger owner and powerhouse behind the brand Curls, Julian Addo, a hilarious, bright, open woman who was the organizer of the event, Jenell of KinkyCurlyCoilyMe who moderated and a duo of two very handsome, gregarious men whose names I never
After we grubbed on some really delicious food and cocktails, Mahisha spoke to the room of guests and bloggers and shared her intentions for the brunch. Mahisha expressed that she wanted to extend herself personally as the woman behind the Curls brand. She felt she was now ready to share her story with others. She began to share with us her very turbulent and real obstacles she faced before getting to where she is now; abuse, poverty, single motherhood, racism. Many women in the room (myself included) fought back tears as she shared her dark past and the motivations which fueled her need for autonomy and self reliance. We were all attentive and inspired.
Mahisha Dellinger is a powerhouse and now I understand the history and significance of why she has a no hold bars way of being. She is confidence and competence personified. When we first met her that morning she walked into the room in 6 inch, bedazzled, chunky heels, with her necked draped with Chanel necklaces. With her right arm cocked back to support her oxblood red Alexander McQueen purse she extended her left hand weighed down by a large diamond engagement ring for a handshake. Her makeup was flawless and her eyes were bright and direct. With her smiling red lips she talked with us. She knew of us and expressed her respect for our “Around The Way” brand. We felt happy to be noticed and recognized. It felt good to know there was a real passionate and experienced person behind a brand we both support.After everyone had their Doctor Phil moments, we broke out onto the deck and did what bloggers do best - we took mad pictures.
Antoinette and I with Curls’ owner Mahisha Dellinger. The look like bosses. I look like a genie.
The awesome blogging sister duo Shalleen Kaye and Seanna-Kaye behind Natural Hair Does Care
Whitney is the absolute sweetest, dopest, cutest lady around. We love her!
Curly Girl Models and Reps for Curls showin off
Renee and us faking the funk. Fake laughs make great shots though huh?
Whitney being ratchet
Antoinette being cute. Ain’t she cute?
Me being even more rachet.
And we out…..
I have been thinking about doing very brief, easy yet informative posts about simple beauty secrets that can be applied cheaply by all. Here is a simple yet HIGHLY EFFECTIVE way of brightening and whitening your teeth. I have been doing this for months now and I can say from experience this process yields the most consistent results with very little time or money spent.
The Process Twice a day EVERYDAY I use pure baking soda when I brush my teeth. I do not couple the baking soda with my toothpaste. Instead BEFORE or AFTER I brush with toothpaste, I dip my toothbrush in baking soda and I brush it directly onto my grill. The flavor is painless although the texture has a soft grit to it. DO NOT SWALLOW. It does not wear on my enamel and is safe for use.
For increased whitening you can also gargle and brush with peroxide. Peroxide is a little more harsh on your enamel but when used intermittently it is harmless just DO NOT SWALLOW.
It has become second nature in my dental care. Simply leave a box in your bathroom and you won’t forget!
For Girls with 4C Hair when their Love for Coils Ain’t Enough: Trimming
I used to run from them as a child. I mean, make a b-line for the closest vacancy or excuse to change the subject. As soon as someone tried to s-p-e-l-l the word I would immediately remember the homework I needed to finish or the laundry I just had to do.
Trims, man. I do not have fond memories.
There was never a science to trimming. Or dusting, for that matter. My ends would get lopped off when they were “bad”, as if they were a child who needed discipline or a tree that bore rotten fruit. The few times I landed in a hair stylist’s chair, it was simply assumed that I needed a trim to compliment my freshly relaxed, oil-sheen-slicked-stiff, portabella mushroom doo.
Y’all know the one I’m referring to. Don’t lie.
Because of these perpetual trimming nightmares, I never learned to associate trimming my hair with positive outcomes. I never learned to connect the removal of hair to a love for army of 4C coils and a nurturing of their potential. Honestly, when my ends were clipped they stood zero chance of retaining their integrity because I never had a consistent moisturizing, sealing, or deep conditioning routine. So what happens when you stay trimming with no plan after the trim? Child– you have ear length hair for life and then complain that your hair “just doesn’t grow”. Couple the “it don’t grow” narrative with the “I have 4C natural hair and so it will never be long” pity party and well, you’ve got a pretty sinister view of trimming and length retention in general.
Here’s the thing. Trimming is an essential part of your hair care routine, especially for us gals with 4C hair. Notice that I did not mention a scientific formula for when to time your trims or a well-known beauty salon to where you should get them. Understand that because our strands contain more coils than other hair types, [read: we have the MOST coils] our ends are prone to dryness since the sebum has difficulty travelling from our scalp on down. We must be vigilant with our moisture routine in order to circumvent this. Consistently dry ends will split, break or incur
single strand knots, all of which must be trimmed to allow our hair to flourish.
Yes, philosophically loving your coils just the way they sprout from your scalp is wonderful. It really is. But if you are seriously on a journey to retain real length– not those claw looking see through ends– you’re going to have to trim, my friend.
For anyone curious about why I’m talking trimming, I recently did a deep trim of 1.25 inches. Detangling was getting ridiculous and split ends were everywhere. I tried to avoid the session by conducting a “search and destroy”, but when 8 of 10 strands looked cray, I decided to lop them off and give my coils a fresh start. That’s how you have to be. Gangsta with it. Talk yourself through the process if you have to, but get it done. Your coils will thank you.
The result? Less knotting. Less tangling. Less shedding. More fullness. The best part is that within the next 4 months, that hair will grow right back. But this time, it will look lovely. –Jamillia
Send Questions about Your #4cCoils to firstname.lastname@example.org or Catch Me on Instagram @love4coils.
Let’s just simply watch and allow the inner beauty of this woman to swell us, inspire us and remind us to be proud. I also want to make note that the director and creative director of this video is fucking amazing. It took my breath away. I love her. I love the message. I love the emotions. I love everything about it.
What did you love about it?
Let us count the ways….