TODAY’S WAKE UP CALL by Tyra Sammons
My 3hrs of sleep last night was restless and my dreams filled with anxiety and dread. I woke up feeling a sense of loss. This election has left me feeling violated… disregarded and I am truly grieving.
Grieving the loss of Hope i had in the Human heart. The hope & faith I had in ‘people’ to make, (WHAT I thought) was the ‘right’ decision. In my Heart of Hearts? I truly believed that the majority would rule AGAINST someone who would so easily exhibit such reprehensible behavior. I feel lost…. I feel BETRAYED!! I feel sick in my stomach AND in my Soul. I Feel ANGRY as Fuck. I feel disrespected, discarded and disowned. I feel sad… and in despair…
And OHHHHH it feels SO fucking good to ALLOW myself to FEEL ALL that I am feeling as I grapple with the thoughts and stories and images whirling within my mind and body. Dammit! I’m trying to wrap my head around what’s happened! I’m trying to figure out what it all means!! WHAT DOES THIS SAY ABOUT THOSE IN MY COMMUNITY??! Those in MY Country??!! What does it say about those folks who lined up willingly to ‘co-sign’ sexual assault, racism, sexism, classism & moral ambiguity.
There are pieces within me that want to lash out, spew hatred & make them ‘wrong’ for their choice. I wanna give them a taste of their own medicine and make up stories and lies in my head about how racist and immoral they must all be, [an attempt to make myself feel better and self righteous in my judgement of course].
Honestly, if I’m to be completely real In THIS moment?? There’s a part of me that WANTS shit to go horribly wrong so that I can POINT to the ‘co-signers’ and say with blood dripping blame….
“SEE!!!! LOOK WHAT YOU’VE DONE BY CHOOSING TO LOOK THE OTHER WAY??!!! THIS IS YOUR FAULT”! I want to shake & POINT MY FINGERS at them for not HONORING Me. For not valuing me. For not caring enough about me, my Black experience, my Femininity and the Basic rights of human beings to At LEAST choose someone who didn’t OPENLY represent and instigate such hatred.
But then (deep breath… ugly cry)
Then, I remember who I am. I remember who WE are. Powerful Co-Creators that have FORGOTTEN Who we are, WHY we are here and that we are all connected. I am reminded of the futility in pointing fingers, and the sometimes destructive consequences of anger and blame. The repercussions of acting unconsciously. I am gently reminded that no one, and I mean NO ONE, has the power to MAKE me feel, think OR act in any way that I don’t agree to. We ‘agree’ to GIVE our power away EVERY single TIME we act out unconsciously with judgment, fear, hatred, anger, blame, etc. So… learning how to manage our emotions and use them to our benefit is paramount.
That said… I am far too Conscious and AWARE to be angry, resentful or hurt for very long. I have access to too many tools to remain in a state of suffering.
I Am That I Am…
A Gift. Priceless. Worthy. Divinely Created. Intelligent. A Blessing. I Am Peace. I Am Love. I Am Truth.
And with THIS Knowledge & Understanding…
I Am Powerful.
Listen, the results of this election are a jarring wake up call. And depending on which side of the line you stand, it may indeed feel tantamount to someone violently emptying a bucket of ice cold water over your head. But friends, we mustn’t be consumed by our emotions. Nor should we allow our emotions to run amok and unchecked. When used properly, however, our emotions can move mountains. And well, that’s what I’m challenging ALL of us to do. We each have a part to play and a responsibility to not only heal our nation but ourselves in the process. If we aren’t simultaneously working on ourselves, we won’t have enough to give to what we’re passionate about.
When we don’t do our inner work we can’t possibly be as effective as we’d like to be, whether your purpose and passions take the shape of your family, career or community. I’m sure you’re familiar with the saying, “Be the change you wish to see in the world”. Well, we have a responsibility to go within and explore… examine, how we violate, disregard and dishonor ourselves.
How can we go outside and heal that which we haven’t recognized, owned & resolved within??
Think about it.
Are you running out ‘there’ somewhere to change the world with a broken heart?
A hate filled heart?
Or a heart full of love?
Is your purpose being fueled by old wounds? Or a healed heart?
Getting my feelings out of my body and on to paper has been extremely cathartic. And in light of the recent election of our new president, I hope that I have not only given you some food for thought but also given voice to the depth of emotion that may have been stirring in your heart. We can be faced with a slew of emotions on any given day. Some days are easy breezy. Some days turn into weeks or longer, metamorphosing into deep dark emotional caverns we can’t easily escape.
The following is a guided meditation exercise to help you take a closer look at the negative thoughts or emotions that may be lurking underneath the surface. Those emotions that can discolor and disrupt your daily life experiences. The goal of this exercise is to help you be more present to your subconscious thoughts & emotions. It’s an opportunity to put aside any judgements we might have and offer compassion and understanding in its place. When this occurs, we are able to see ourselves and our situations with a clearer mind. And with a clear mind anything is possible!!
Carve out some time for yourself, (a minimum of 15-20m), before you began:
1. Set an intention [What would you like to get out of this ex.? More clarity? A particular answer to a question?]
2. Find a pen and some paper or a journal.
3. Sink into a comfortable chair or lay on a comfortable surface with the intention of bringing your focus and attention inward.
4. Close your eyes and take a minimum of 3, very deep breaths, slowly inhaling all that you can and then gently allowing it to flow out of your mouth with a slight airy sound.
When you have completed this brief and simple exercise to help bring you into the present moment, put one hand on your belly and one hand on your heart.
If necessary, feel free to take a few more deep breaths. There’s no ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ here. Take as many deep breaths as YOU need to feel calmer, more centered and still.
As your breathing begins to settle, bring your attention to the rise and the fall of your chest. Notice how it expands and how it contracts.
Become aware of your heart. Become so STILL that you can feel its quiet thumping in your chest.
Offer thanks and deep gratitude to your heart for the amazing job it does, pumping blood in and out , thru the roller coaster of life, each and every day.
Now… I want you, the Powerful Co-Creator You Are, to go on an exciting journey inward.
I want you to imagine that within your body, within your very heart, lie the answers to your question or concern.
Imagine also, that you are ready to hear the answer to your question or concern.
Take a deep breath and ask your Heart:
“Heart… In what ways do I dishonor, devalue or disregard myself”?
Take a couple deep breaths. Be open to the possibility that the answers have been there all along. Imagine they have just been sitting there, simply waiting for you to pose the question.
Ask the question again and allow yourself to soften, feel compassion in your heart. Allow the answers to come…as feelings, images, sensations or words floating across your head.
After a few moments, move on to the next question:
“Heart… In What ways do I harbor resentment or anger? And if so, how do these thoughts & feelings express themselves in my life and in my life experiences?”
Again… allow your heart to reveal your truth to you in a fresh, yet sobering way.
A few more deep breaths, as you patiently wait to be shown your truth, be it thru feelings, images, sensations or words that come to you.
There’s no judgement here, no right or wrong, it’s merely information. Information that could prove to be extremely insightful.
When you feel that you have received everything you can give thanks for any insight you received.
Give thanks for the miracle of your body & your body’s innate intelligence.
Give thanks to the Supreme Power that exists with-out and within you.
And then , slowly but surely, begin to gently wiggle your fingers, your toes and start to open your eyes.
Next, pick up your paper & pen without going to your head to ‘think’ about what just happened.
Stay in your heart space and write about the experience you just had.
What did you notice?
Did you see anything?
Did you have any revelations about your life? Your current situation?
Did it feel good to be still?
Was it unusual?
Great job friends!
My name is Tyra Sammons and I am an Intuitive life coach. This is just one of the many self care tools I’ll be sharing with you in my upcoming “Wellness Wednesday” Posts on the blog in collaboration with Around The Way Curls. It can be Life Changing to our families and communities when we learn how to cultivate and model Self Love & Care for our divine selves.
For a recorded version of the guided meditational journey inward or to learn more about my Intuitive Life Coaching services, please contact me at:
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