On the Cover but not the Average CoverGirl. curlBOX BODY


This isn’t a photo of a greasy girl in her bra and underwear. This is a photo of a woman standing proudly, in her glory, celebrating all that she is and all that she thankfully, is not. Thank you Curlbox for celebrating with her.

A Thank you Letter

Dear Body, 

Thank you for keeping me safe and protecting me during the times when I needed it most. Thank you for standing strong when life and its many lessons, seemed too much for me to bare. Thank you for being plentiful for it has kept me warm when no chicken soup could soothe my soul. Thank you for being broad because it helped me block those that did not belong. Thank you for holding me close. Thank you for healing me. Thank you breathing air into my lungs. Thank you for keeping me going. I love you. 

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SuperHERoes – Halloween Inspiration

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Recently discovered Paola Mathe of Finding Paola and I am obsessed. She is the shit. I can’t describe the happiness and inspiration I get when I see women gettin’  their lives! Yaaasss!

Anyway Paola and some friends just murdered the damn game with their recent photo shoot as superheroes set out to represent for the misrepresented. Check out some more photos from the shoot and follow Ms. Paola’s badd self on her blog. 

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“We fight for those who are told their tears don’t matter.Where the police hurts more than serves, and eating establishments are built just to shorten the lives of the community. We fight for the strong who have been stripped of their powers. We fight for the invisible.” 



I am in love. Meaning, it’s mutual. I love someone and they love me back. They told me so. I hear it. “What if I told you that I loved you”? I replay those words in my head daily. Filled with all the feelings, I look up. I. see. him. Handsome, sure and smiling. I am overcome with gratitude and resolve. This. is all I’ve ever wanted. He’s more than I’ve imagined. He is love. My love.

I am in love. Meaning, I’m wide the fuck open and for his taking. I’m all in. Exposed. Naked and Vulnerable. In the past, I’ve stretched my body out anticipating civilization, but have only been met by ruins. Here, I am safe. Here, I can be still. Here, we are kind and just.

I am in love. Meaning, I’m devoted. All in. Chin deep. Soaked. Invested. Thinking of the future. Envisioning a future. All his. All mine. All of me. All and all.

I am in love. Meaning, I am thriving. I aim to be my lover’s every(any)thing. His go-to. His best friend. Therefore, I want to be my best self. I am becoming my best self. In his eyes, my reflection is clear and I bask in its glory. I am better now, than before he found me.

I am in love. Meaning, I am in lust. Wide. Open. Ready. Needing all. of. it. Unafraid. Unabashed.

I am in love. Meaning, I am (re)learning. Love languages. Love truths. Love confessions.

I am in love. Meaning, I am healing. I do deserve love. I do deserve peace. I do deserve clarity. I do deserve affection. I do deserve admiration. I do deserve him. I am enough.

I am in love. Meaning, I am terrified. Now, that I have found this. feeling. Now, that I have been loved, I’m afraid. I need love.


Practicing Safe Sex “What I Wish Someone Had Told Me About Sex”

Listen up ladies! This is meant for you to learn and gain strength from!

“Safe sex” is protection from so much more than just STDs and unwanted babies. I have learned time and time again the hard way about maintaining clarity and my integrity before sharing myself sexually with another person. I hope you all take heed and avoid the pain, confusion and disappointment that is often the sad remains of relationships fueled solely on sex. 

Undercut Hair Grow Out Challenge!!

I have officially decided that I am going to grow out my hair. I am ready for change. I am ready for challenge. I am ready to rock twist outs and ponytails and have it get on my nerves again. I have a mohawk right now so I have a center section with significantly longer hair and very short hair on the sides. Uggh, this is going to be a bitch to grow out. I refuse to cut it all evenly until my sides grow out some more though. Anyway, here is a video describing my plan of action. Who else is ready to keep their heads warm this winter? Who else is growing out their shorter hair styles? I think we all should keep one another motivated and away from scissors and barber chairs!  Send me some pics of your starting point for this challenge! I will share yours as well as my growth every 2 months or so to see one another’s progress. Lets get it! 

(Starting point) Oct 2015




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The Conscious Barber : Derrick Banks, Owner of Freshly Faded

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1.Tell us about yourself. What’s your name? Where were you raised? Where do you currently reside? 

My name is Derrick Banks I’m 30 years old I was born and raised in San Diego California and I live here also.

2. How did you become a barber? 

I would say barbering found me, prior to barber college I had never picked up a pair of clippers or cut anyones hair. I quickly learned that college wasn’t for me and decided I needed to pick up a skill. I first went to an electrical school seeking to be come an electrician, they told me they had a 2 year waiting list. I walked out of there disappointed. However around the corner from the electrical school was the barber college, I went in there just to entertain the idea. They told me I could start the next day if I wanted to, that was 10 years ago and the rest is history.

3. How long has Freshly Faded been in business?

I opened Freshly Faded Barber + Shop in April of 2013. The shop actually started as a website www.freshlyfaded.com which was a portal through which I asked my clients to schedule their haircuts through. It also allowed me to blog and express my views and opinions of the world.

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4. Your instagram handle is “conscious barber”. What exactly is a conscious barber? How do you describe the connection between hair and spirituality?

Conscious Barber: to be “conscious” I’d say one has to know first who they are, where they come from, and where they are in the world and in society.  Also after one gains that level of intelligence one must be aware and living in the present moment.

Hair and spirituality: If you look at any group of native people around the world you will see that they place high significance on their hair.  And also they will somehow link hair with the spiritual realm.  I see it this way. Our bodies and everything else is made up of fields of energies vibrating at different speeds, and that energy is shifting and flowing through us out into the world constantly.  One of the areas that gets blocked and doesn’t allow energy to flow naturally is the crown of the head, What I do is I work on the slow moving energy which is the physical (hair) and simultaneously work on the fast moving energy traveling outward from the top of the head.

5. I noticed a photo on social media of a sage smudging performed by you on a client. Can you share the significance of this ritual as it pertains to grooming? How does your clientele respond to such activities going on while in the barbershop?  

I never really liked the word smudging because it sounds as if I’m doing something dirty. All I’m doing is using smoke from the sage to clear up negative or stagnant energy that is built up in the crown area of the client.  I am a healer, what good is it to clean up the outside of your house when your inside is dirty?  Our clients love the experience because they know how they feel afterwards.

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6. Do you see a holistic approach to grooming emerging for men of color? How do the worlds of self care/love and grooming intersect for men?

I think for men it is a bit tricky, we have been tricked into believing that self care/love means that we must sacrifice our masculinity to do so.  I think you can still be very manly and still like to look and feel your best.  Some companies out there have been able to effectively market that, but I think it is extremely difficult.

7. You are a black man. You are a successful entrepreneur. Due to your physical attributes and chosen profession, you are often met with risk – physically and financially. Are you often fearful? How do you deal with your fear? 

I really don’t understand this question.  As a black man in society of course there is a level of caution that you must move with, but fear? No fear is something else entirely, fear is something that limits you from success, that isn’t really based in reality. If black people are the original people of this planet then everything here on earth as long as we live in harmony with it can be used to our benefit. Where is the fear in that? Financially, I know that I am going to alway be taken care of, the whole planet is abundant.  The tree has thousands of leaves the dirt has millions of grains, I guess its just important to know that you can never be lacking of anything as long as you remain conscious of who you are and where you are. That is the key.

8. After reading your blog, watching your videos and seeing your social media posts it is very clear you are proud of your blackness. At the same time you were raised and educated in very diverse communities and your staff as well as your clientele are diverse. What then is blackness to you? Is it simply you being you unbothered by other’s perceptions or is it a matter of conscious (there is that word again) education and redefinition of what blackness is for others? 

Here is another question I’m not sure I understand. What is blackness to me?  Blackness in America as defined by America begins with slavery and continues all the way up to President Obama.  The collective achievements and mishaps of people who were once slaves and are so called free today.  But to me blackness starts with the original people of the planet.  Who brought mathematics, science, astronomy, agriculture, music, art, and spirituality to the world.  From whom everything was stolen from, and their descendants are now suffering the world over.  But some of us are waking up.  We are starting to remember who we are where we come from and where we are going.

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9. What do you think of the natural hair boom that has emerged in women of color?

America’s grip on the standard of beauty for women of color is slipping.  There was a time when they could control the various forms of media, and pump the rhetoric that white skin and straight hair is beautiful and dark skin and natural hair is not.  Now with the presence of the internet how can they spread those lies?  You can see for yourself how beautiful you are.  Look in the mirror, post a selfie and then get the positive feedback from millions of people who are just as beautiful as you are.  Black women there is no one like you, you are the closest thing to God on Earth, the sooner you realize that the sooner our situation will change.  Hold yourselves in high esteem because you have a sacred magic that no one else has.  You are it, and we love you!

10. What is your favorite hair style on a woman? 

I love natural hairstyles on women. I dig the wash and go.

 11.What is your favorite hair cut to achieve on a man? What trend do you think needs to go (for men) what is a classic look that you think will never leave (for a man)?

I like cutting fades and leaving natural nappy textures on the top.  I think it is saying to society look, I’m clean, however I am unwilling to compromise who I am because one of you made up a silly rule that all black males must be bald headed. lol.  Since there isn’t a lot of variation in men’s hairstyling I don’t think any trends need to disappear I just think they need to be more refined.  Brothas with texturizers in their hair though?  Save that for the birds, it’s absolutely terrible.  Short clean cuts with sharp clean lines will never go out of style.  But the cool thing is Brothas can make almost any hairstyle look good, both long and short.

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11. What do you envision for Freshly Faded as it grows as a business?

I think Freshly Faded will mature and branch out into other things. I’ve already done men’s haircare products, t-shirts, and other apparel.  I think I would like to recreate this vibration in other places, and give other people the opportunity to feel a part of this positive movement of consciousness. That sometimes starts with a haircut, but ends up in a shifting of a mentality.

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Thank you Brother Banks for the interview! We love to see our black men riding around and gettin’ it! We are proud of you! 

To learn more about Derrick Banks and Freshly Faded 


2850 El Cajon Blvd. Suite 1. San Diego, California 92104

Tues-Sat 10am-6pm

(619) 677-4733



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“In the Castle Of My Skin” – Sons of Kemet

Hello. Meet my newest obsession in music. Check out the British  jazz band Sons of Kemet. I stumbled upon this amazing video set to the song “In the Castle of My Skin” from the band’s second album “Lest We Forget What We Came Here to Do”.  Once I watched the video, I started vibing to the music and got dammit I am obsessed. Check it out.  


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“Five on the Black Hand Side” by Lamont Hamilton


Beautiful photography researching and portraying the evolution of the “dap” (acronym of dignity and pride) by photographer Lamont Hamilton. 

Five on the Black Hand Side is a project exploring gestural languages that were born in African American communities during the 1960s and 1970s, including the “the dap” and the black power handshake.”

“The dap originated during the late 1960s among black G.I.s stationed in the Pacific during the Vietnam War. At a time when the Black Power movement was burgeoning, racial unrest was prominent in American cities, and draft reforms sent tens of thousands of young African Americans into combat, the dap became an important symbol of unity and survival in a racially turbulent atmosphere. Scholars on the Vietnam War and black Vietnam vets alike note that the dap derived from a pact black soldiers took in order to convey their commitment to looking after one another. Several unfortunate cases of black soldiers reportedly being shot by white soldiers during combat served as the impetus behind this physical act of solidarity.”

Ahhh, the Dopeness and depth of the DAP

To read more about this project click HERE

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