Carol Daughter’s “The Curl” Premiers Wednesday December 5th!

Coming to December 5th!

Check out the trailer for “The Curl,” the first episode of which will premiere on Wednesday, December 5. Designed as a series for Carol’s Daughter’s new site, Transitioning Movement, “The Curl” will be the first show of its kind, a show that, when put together, defines, entertains and exposes viewers to natural hair terminology and hairstyles in a comprehensive way, while getting a sneak peek into the lives of women who share their own candid, incredibly diverse hair stories. This series is for every woman-sister-mother-friend who has ever wondered, “What exactly am I going to do with my hair?” and “How can I achieve my own, unique look?


Cipriana of Urban Bush Babes Shanti and Antoinette of Around the Way Curls Francheska Medina of Hey Fran Hey Fran Ramsey of Chescalocs Enyinne of Heritage 1960, and more…

Director: Dominique DeLeon of Special Boy Films Producer: Kristin Braswell Director of Photography: Shawn Peters Associate Producer: Sharlyn Pierre

Essence Has The Ultimate Natural Hair Bloggers’ Holiday Gift Guide

shanti essence holiday hair around the way curls

antoinette essence holiday hair around the way curls

It’s that time of year and Nicole Melton along with the good folks over at Essence put this gift guide together for those folks who still don’t know how to give a natural girl a gift. This is for all the Mop Tops who despite being natural continue to receive chi irons, Just for Me relaxers, Luster’s Pink Moisturizing Lotion, Blue Magic Grease, sulfate shampoo that should be called ‘Get ready to strip’,  itty bitty-teeny weeny hats that either on’t fit or would destroy our curls and lace front weaves. Seriously, though I have gotten some of these gifts during the holiday season and it use to make me feel slighted but now I realize some of my beloved family just don’t get it.

Take a look at the list and be sure to send the link to your man/daddy/anyone clueless about kinks and curls. 

I’m actually going to get one of the beanies Hey Fran Hey recommended. They are cute as a boot.

In the meantime, because we like to laugh around on here do tell, what has been your worst gift experience? It doesn’t even have to be about hair.

I’ll start, matching bright red, grown woman-sized, red, fluffy, bedtime onesies (feet and hood included) for me and my surprise half-sister that I was meeting for the first time….ever. SMH. Top that.


For All My Twenty Somethings

Initially, I wanted to make a video promoting an event that I had planned. It was not going to be a hair event but rather a self help, self motivation, self development type joint. I would pitch to  my loved ones like ” Yeah we gon be all like ‘We love ourselves. We can overcome our fears. We know how to affirm our self worth. YAY!'” And I also had plans to throw in some small business makeup and hair vendors to help with the exterior beautification and self realization. Everyone was like “OOkkkayyy. Do it.” When I sat down to draft out the schedule and curriculum,  I hit a hard, cold wall.

WTF do I even know about myself? What fears and challenges have I overcome? How am I going to lead anyone anywhere when I’m twiddling my thumbs in the dark as well. I too am afraid to turn on the light and face my demons. Nonetheless I have to. I’ll learn along the way. Ask and you shall receive. In this tumultuous, confusing and oh so exciting times of my twenties I ask for faith, conviction, clarity, direction and the strength of a warrior.  A(women).


Jada Pinkett “Willow’s beauty is not measured by the length of her hair”.

After receiving tons of hate and criticism  of her daughter, Willow Jada finally spoke out in defense of Willow experimenting with her look and explained that she is letting her baby girl claim her domain. On her facebook page she wrote:

A letter to a friend…

This subject is old but I have never answered it in its entirety. And even with this post it will remain incomplete.

The question why I would LET Willow cut her hair. First the LET must be challenged. This is a world where women,girls are constantly reminded that they don’t belong to themselves; that their bodies are not their own, nor their power or self determination. I made a promise to endow my little girl with the power to always know that her body, spirit and her mind are HER domain. Willow cut her hair because her beauty, her value, her worth is not measured by the length of her hair. It’s also a statement that claims that even little girls have the RIGHT to own themselves and should not be a slave to even their mother’s deepest insecurities, hopes and desires. Even little girls should not be a slave to the preconceived ideas of what a culture believes a little girl should be.

More to come. Another day.


I love Jada for handling her and Willow’s haters like this when I’m sure she would much rather prefer to go upside their heads. I, personally admire little Willow for being bold enough to be herself in spite of the backlash and scrutiny that she so heavily receives. I recently have been feeling really insecure when it comes to my hair. It might just be ‘that time of the month’, or the fact that I’m going through a bit of an awkward phase in terms of my length right now, but I am realizing just how much of security blanket my hair really is. I wish I could just cut it and not care what anyone would think or if I would still be attractive to folks but at this point I honestly can’t. I don’t have the heart just yet to do me. I’m too concerned with how folks will react and too filled with insecurity, that I know at this point… it’s never going to happen. SMH. It’s such a two fold you know? This whole ‘natural hair uprising” has been revolutionizing in a way but it has also made some of us obsessed with getting ‘the perfect curl’, ‘the perfect cut’ and ‘the perfect volume’. Anyone else feeling this way? I don’t know, maybe I’m emotional and trippin. Maybe I should just cut it off and document that transition and journey or maybe I should just sit down somewhere and stop being so dramatic?

More to come but in the meantime just know that my curls looks drunk, uneven and flat. It’s pissing me off. And that I think Willow Smith is the ish. That is all.

I Got DANdruff In My Hair!

I know no one understands why that title “I got DANdruff in my hair” is so funny to me. My dad told me when he was in grade school he and his best friend would terrorize his teacher by yelling “I GOT DAN..druff in my hair!” Say it out loud. Do you see why the teacher was so annoyed by his psuedo-cursing? Isn’t that funny??!!
Anywhooo, real rap I have dandruff. It happens every winter. For some reason, my scalp thinks it is doing me a favor by creating layers of dead skin to shed and keep my head warm. It isn’t severe dandruff but it is enough to notice. I have also been dealing with a really tender, throbbing head. For some reason, after washing and moisturizing my hair, my scalp will ache afterwards. I can’t figure out for the live of me what is going on but with the help of Antoinette (although this can easily be done solo), I attempted some self medication to relieve and revive my scalp using tea tree oil as the active ingredient and jojoba oil as the carrier (it can be any NON-mineral or NON-petroleum based oil).

I hate to gross you out but I wanted to provide a visual of my dandruff. It is not that bad but it is consistently shedding.

My hair was previosly washed, so I did this treatment on dry hair. I started by mixing my Jojoba and tea tree oil together in a bowl. You do not want to burn your scalp with the highly concentrated tea tree oil so make sure you are putting 5x more jojoba than tea tree. I did not measure anything but I can guess-timate that I added 1 and a half capfuls of tea tree oil to 1/4 cup of jojoba.

In order to make sure that this mixture was reaching as much surface as possible on my inflamed scalp I decided to put my hair into 8 straight backs and apply the oil to my exposed scalp area. Honeychild, it felt like heaven.

I know that I will have to repeat this process about twice a week to stay on top of the dandruff because just one application does not do it for me.

I hope this helps any of the tender-headed, dander sufferers out there like me. We in this together!

Shanti Goes Blonde

What do you guys think?

So I have never ever dyed my hair in my entire life. I have decided that I am going to do it. I am going to have my first experience with coloring and I am very excited. I want to keep it simple but read instant funk. I am thinking a blonde streak in the front. BOOM! Dat’s it! I thought I would share the news with everyone and preface it with – “I will not be talked out of it”. I also wanted to share the news with everyone because then I won’t be able to back out of it. HA! I must admit, I am slightly scared of the outcome. I have worked very diligently to come to have a semblance of healthy hair and I would hate to be set back. As do many neurotic and indecisive people, I will write a pros and cons list. If I am missing anything let me know.


1.It will look doper than a lil’ bit

2.I will be forced to deep condition and diligently moisturize my hair.

3.It will look doper than a lil’ bit son.

4.I will get over my fear of coloring and perhaps learn to be more adventurous with my hair.

5.It will look great!


1.My hair will dry out terribly and fall out

2.It will turn out orange

3.I will be left with an inch of hair and be forced to cut it all off and start my hair journey all over again which would infuriate me and lead me to just get a perm.

4.It will change my curl pattern drastically and I will be left with some scraggily, stringy blonde pieces dangling in the front.

  Well obviously the Pros far outweigh the cons. I’m doing it.  

Here are some pictures of those that kill the look that I intend to shamelessly swagger jack  that I am inspired by.

Does anyone else peep this noodle necklace she has going on?

I am going to try and book an appointment next week.

Its. About.To.Go.Down.

Sweet Memories of Crack

Crack Head Days. lol

Something’s been on my mind and I’m gonna tell you what it is! Here goes:

Back in July, I wrote this post on hair acceptance. That was such a nice post. 🙂 Where is the person who wrote that post??? b/c I surely am not feeling very accepting of my hair right now. What has changed? IDK. But that was July. This is November. Perhaps I am what you call a fickle naturalista? Bi-polar? Change my mind with the wind? lol. Whatever. Bottom line is, lately I’ve been having fond memories of the creamy crack. I’ve been looking longingly of the pictures of myself with smooth like butta hair ( see exhibit A and B above). Now, it’s not that I miss having the look of straight hair so much, (although, I like that look too) but I do miss the ease of waking up and not having to do too much work. I don’t have much time to spend on my hair and this has left me looking like booboo the fool on far more occasions than I would like.

As I mature, I feel like I should be able to maintain a certain level of style and that I should have a handle on my hair ( I don’t). I would like to be presentable AT LEAST half of the week. This is not the case in my mind. Sometimes I do not want frizzy poofy hair. Sometimes I want my twist out to last for more than 5 minutes. Sometimes I don’t feel like wrestling with SSK’s with scissors in both hands. LOL.

I have presented this dilemma to several close friends. One in particular immediately called me when she knew I was contemplating a texturizer or the creamy crack. “WHAT ABOUT YOUR BLOG “she said? I was like, what about it? smh. It’s tough y’all. I originally started this journey because I wanted healthier hair. I had no idea how much friggin time, money and effort would go into having healthy hair. I am wondering if a few extra healthy strands are really truly worth that time and effort. I know, as a natural hair blogger, this sounds like treason and tyranny. But, you know, sometimes you get tired, and trying to ‘wrestle’ ( in my case) with hair starts to become unappealing. What do you do then? Seriously. What to do? I would keep it in a puff or bun if I didn’t get a headache after a few hours of each. Braids=money down the drain. Keeping it straight takes too much time and heat. I am open for suggestions. Save me. I feel like I’m that much closer to the creammmmmmy dreamy…crack. LOL. Please, don’t arrest me. Maybe it’s my hormones? I’m also not looking for comments that say I need a lesson in self esteem and that I need to embrace who I am. I just need suggestions. Please, and thank you:-)

*UPDATE* It WAS my hormones y’all HAAA! Crazy. I still get on the fence sometimes though and I could STILL use suggestions and ideas short of perming. Have you ever felt this way? What did/do you do?


Check Out more of our girl M’s posts at her blog Hair and Other Stuff.

If she relaxes her hair I will come through this computer and pimp slap the b-jesus out of her. 

Essence Shows Us Some Around The Way Love

Well, what a nice surprise. Don’t get too hype, the article isn’t specifically about us but is about the importance of meetups and blogs of our content. Essence says,

“Originally designed to celebrate the diversity of our hair, the meetups have largely evolved into an essential resource for women who want to learn better way to care for their tresses while connecting with other naturalistas. It’s like having a room full of girlfriends giving their best advice, and the camaraderie is priceless”. 

 Couldn’t have said it better ourselves. Speaking of meetups, our girl Shanti has something brewing for Philly. Deets to come. Make sure you pick up your copy of this month’s Essence!

Elizabeth Gilbert (Eat Pray Love) Talks Creativity and Fear

To All Our Creative Curls… This is a MUST watch video for you!

“Norman Mailer said shortly before his death that, “Every one of my books has killed me a little more.”  … (This is ) an extraordinary statement to make about your life’s work but we don’t even blink when we hear someone say this. We’ve internalized and accepted that creativity and suffering are somehow inherently linked (and that) artistry will ultimately lead to anguish.”

“Then the renaissance came and people began to put the individual human being at the center of the universe above all Gods and mysteries. And for the first time history, you started to hear people refer to this or that artist as a ‘genius’ instead of, having a genius and I think that was a huge error. Allowing somebody, one mere person to believe that he or she is the vessel…the essence and the source of all divine, creative and unknowable mystery is just a smidge  too much responsibly to put on one fragile human. It’s like asking somebody to swallow the sun. It just completely warps and distorts egos and creates all these unmanageable expectations about performance. And the pressure of that has been killing off our artists for the last 500 years. ” – Elizabeth Gilbert

 As an artist myself, I can identify with this completely. I am currently, in rehearsals for an off- Broadway show I’m doing and I was witness to an actor tearing himself apart. He was pacing, sweating, making awkward jokes, over-thinking and just plain drowning. If any of you are performers, you know that the rehearsal process can be one of the most frustrating, ego-shattering, and torturous things in the world if you don’t take it for what it is and truly trust that it is a process. To be in a room filled with fellow actors, the director, the musical director, the pianist, the choreographer, and the assistant director and not be able to ‘perform’ at your best or to their liking is one of the worst feelings of rejection a performer can feel. And instead of owning that it wasn’t perfect yet, he was fighting it. But ‘getting it’ isn’t even the hardest part. Once you make it work, you have to repeat it… over and over and over again while adding your own fresh little spin to it so that it doesn’t get stale and boring. It’s exhausting and mind-bogglng all at the same time but if you’re a creative person you live for it.

One of my favorite acting teachers once said to me that when it comes to live theater, “You make it different every night not just because you’re trying to be as truthful and in the moment as possible, but because you also need to preserve your own sanity.” The night before I received a standing ovation for my work in one of her products. I was on fire. Seriously, I slayed. That next evening, I was more than ready to go out and repeat my previous performance. To my surprise, nothing was landing. No laughs, no applause, nothing. I was beating myself up backstage… almost in tears, applying more makeup (as if that was going to somehow change my performance), questioning my talent, my physical appearance while lacing my corset a little tighter… straight trippin… and slipping into that rejected, misfit actor pit. It wasn’t until after I spoke to my director/teacher did I realize she let me bomb on purpose so that I would never again try to be perfect while trying to be creative. Those two efforts are like oil and water. Together, they don’t mix. I quickly understood that my previous performance could very well have been my absolute best and that I may not ever be able to repeat it again. But if I was ever going to get anywhere close to resurrecting that performance I was going to have to get out of my head, forget about the audience and my incessant need to be affirmed by them, get free and play moment to moment on stage. It’s really a crazy world to be in. If you are ever searching for yourself and need some clarity,consider being a performer or offer yourself to others in any creative form. It was surely bring all your deepest insecurities and victories for you to reflect on to the forefront. I promise.

So with all that said, how do we help creative people manage the “inherent emotional risks that come with creativity”? How do we battle creative narcissism when in today’s world with Instagram, Twitter, Facebook and every other social media platform you almost HAVE to be somewhat self promoting and narcissistic?  Let’s be real, Shanti and I wouldn’t have a blog or platform to even ask these questions on if we didn’t constantly take pictures of ourselves and post them all over the internet with the latest hair trends and such attached to them. That helped put us on. I don’t know the answer. But I do know that it is a constant struggle for both of us. Where do we draw the line? And how do we handle rejection when we spend hours on a style or post that gets no love? How do I go on stage after I just cracked 3 times in rehearsal? How do we feel safe enough to continue to share creatively?

In the words of Dave Chappelle, “I just don’t wanna be that tragic m*thaF*CKa”.

I Couldn’t Help But Think About These Fallen Creative Soldiers.

Whitney Houston
Michael Jackson
Donny Hathaway
jean michel basquiat
Jean Michel Basquiat

 So, What Do You Think? Does Creative Genius and Artistry Ultimately Lead to Anguish?

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