So I have been thinking about your hair issues and it finally hit me. Girl you use heat on your hair 1-2 a week!?? Thats your problem! So from that information I can assume that you wear your hair straight a lot more than you do curly. Is that correct? So you wash with shampoo, condition, blow dry and then press your hair at least 1x a week?
If this is true than that is the cause of your hair breakage and shedding. Your hair is heat damaged.
In my experience there are parts of people’s hair that are much more fragile than other parts. For me it was the center of my head. When I used heat on my hair weekly as you do, the center of my hair was brittle, porous and breaking. IT WOULD NEVER GROW…I thought that it was a lost cause and that was how my hair was genetically predisposed to be but I realized that I was wrong.
You have to figure out a way to stop putting your hair under so much stress. The “sensitive” part of your hair appears to be the back of your hair. The constant washing and heat is stripping the layers of your hair in the back causing it to be weak and break when under any tension. The tension that your hair endures is probably from running against your scarf nightly. Even if you deep condition every week if you are following with heat it will not do your hair much good.
I want you to understand that no matter how much “heat protectant” and deep conditioning you do to prep your hair for heat if you are constantly putting heat on your hair it will wear it away. Your hair is made of the same proteins as your fingernail. So imagine, no matter what you put on your nailit will be damaged if you were to repeatedly put a lighter to it.
My recommendations are to put down the blow dryer and flat iron because if you want your hair to recover that is the only way it is going to happen. I imagine that your curl pattern is “heat trained” so that it is effected in way that the pattern is very loose if not wavy. This is a nice state to attempt rod sets or roller sets. These styles are heat free and straighten your hair. You may also want to look into twist outs and braid outs. These are styles that mimick curl patterns. You are going to have to switch up to a more curly look because the straight look achieved by heat is too harsh for your hair.
Youtube has a plethora of tutorials of how to do these styles. Our blog also has great hairstyles that can be worn as well.
I hope this helped.
“An old friend recently began a natural hair blog for black women. Our relationship began with her as a mentee and later employee in a very rigorous activism network. We have both grown accustomed to a very tough-love, high expectation approach to our relationship over the years as I have watched her grow into a very successful and confident woman. She manages the blog with her best friend. They are both two beautiful biracial women with a mission to promote and celebrate Black hair in all it’s expressions.
While discussing the blog with her, I mentioned that she should be prepared to face some challenges. That not everyone would appreciate their mission in the same way, especially because of the writers’ background and coveted hair. Her approach is overwhelmingly positive and affirming not unlike many of the other popular sites within the same ilk. But the internet is full of opinions and politics- and black hair, in my opinion, was one of the biggest points of contention.
I have strong opinions on aesthetic issues- so when she asked me to interview for a new series interviewing men of color about their thoughts about natural hair- I told her I would pass. Before even receiving the questions, I had a feeling that she and her comrades would not like the answers. Plus the previous interviews had a very light hearted and polite approach. I knew my answers would sound harsh in comparison. But she insisted, and I sent her my responses. It didn’t go over well. She passed it around to her friends for judgement and yeah…. I guess I don’t play well with others.
Apparently I answered the questions way too seriously and they also took my responses personally and thought I was attacking their blog. So here’s the interview. *(I edited out some harsh comments on how I thought the a few questions were vague and repetitive. But that was common place in our relationship. I called one question dumb. In hindsight, I know that in particular was insensitive. ) “
How important is the hair of the woman you have interest in?
No, I dig all different styles. Afros are always cute and have always been a favorite. But healthy hair is the most attractive no matter what the style. Also it’s very attractive to see a woman whose hairstyle compliments her overall look and personality. If it makes her smile stand out, its a winner.
|When she first began experimenting with her curls.|
|When she started the blog. Approximately 6 months ago.|
|Bantu Knot Out Approximately 3 months ago|
|Wash n’ Go Approximately 3 Months Ago|
…Makes me wanna pack my bags and bounce without any notice. Shanti keeps telling me that I need to travel while I’m not tied down to anyone or anything. I’ve been thinking about spending part of the summer abroad with my homegirl Haben but then again studying somewhere like Senegal seems to be calling my name…
If you could go anywhere in the world where would it be and why?
Benefits and Things to Consider
Price- Henna is not very expensive. Depending on the amount purchased it can cost anywhere from $6.00(single use)- $25.00(multiple use).
Stronger, Healthier More Luxurious Hair- Henna is like great protein treatment. Henna’s dye molecule attaches to the keratin in our hair over time, making our hair stronger and thicker. Henna replenishes the hair by coating the hair shaft and piecing together the rough spots throughout the damaged cuticle. Henna’s coating however, is permeable and does not lock moisture out. So a good deep conditioner after a henna treatment will not only work, but be icing on the cake.
Change in Curl Pattern- Some have reported that Henna temporarily loosens your curl pattern by reducing shrinkage. I didn’t have those results but there are people who swear by it…CurlyNikki is one of them.
The Smell- I don’t particularly like or dislike the smell. Henna smells very grassy and hay like. The smell also lingers for a couple days after the application. But if your other hair products have a strong fragrance they will probably mask the smell of henna.
Time Consuming- While the application is quick, it takes a while for the color to set. Most reviewers and other natural hair enthusiasts say that henna needs to be keep on for 6-10 hours in order to get the full benefits despite the fact that most product bottles claim that it only takes 1 hour. I suggest using henna at night wrapping your hair securely with a couple of shower caps and silks scarves and sleeping with it applied.
The Mess- Like any hair dye, henna can be a bit messy. Put some newspaper or old towel down to help elevate some of the mess it can create. The good thing about henna is that when mixed with water it forms a thick paste which is easier to handle than other liquid products. Also, when rinsing henna out of your hair, fill the tub a bit with water so that the henna does not stain the bottom of your tub.
What You Will Need-
a glass or wooden bowl
2 cups of boiling water
vaseline or a thick butter to protect your hairline and ears
a deep conditioner
plastic shower cap and bonnet